Rosie Corriette

Notes from a retired blogger

Author: Rosie

  • Crying In the Shower| A Mother’s Secret

    Crying In the Shower| A Mother’s Secret

    I’ve never been scared to cry in front of Boo. But what do you do if the reason you’re crying is your child?

    I’ve spoken before about Boo’s health hurdles – tomorrow she’s having an operation, it’s set to (hopefully) be simple and straightforward but with her complex health issues, I’ve had a knot of fear ever growing over the past few months. With a heart full of worry and a head full of what ifs’ I’ve found my worry spilling over in the form of tears… late at night in the shower.

    Motherhood is strewn with worry: worry we’re getting it right, worry we’re doing enough, you name it and a mother has probably worried about it. It’s also my job to try as hard as I can to absorb all of Boo’s worries too. It’s never been a walk in the park but as the big day approaches, I have to be strong for Boo. Control is not something I relinquish easily – I like to be the bearer of solutions for any problem. Ask Boo what I can’t fix and she’ll proudly say there isn’t anything – but that’s not true, I can’t fix this.

    Being a mother of a child who is ill has to be one of the most isolating and frightening things I’ve ever done. The fear and worry is relentless and builds up until you have to let it out. Surrounded by amazing family and friends is a comfort but unless you’ve been through it yourself you just don’t get it. The tears I cry are an almost physical pain that escapes during hot showers. They signify an animalistic fear, one that is very real. Also frustration: why can’t I fix this for Boo?

    There’s also such a feeling of failure, Boo was born with the majority of her health hurdles – I failed as a mother right at the beginning. As I read the last sentence back I know that’s absolutely not the case but that doesn’t make it any better.

    I like to think that the water washes away not only my tears but my fears yet still they return.

    It’s my job to be strong for Boo – to champion her at her best and raise her at her lowest. There is no conscious room for my emotions. So with a smile and my hidden tears, I will carry Boo through this – just like every other mother.

    Selfie style photo of a mother a daughter smiling and hugging

    I haven’t written this because I think I find myself in a unique position, I’ve written this because so many mothers go through exactly the same; there are countless tears cried by mothers in secret, burdened with staying publicly strong.

    So until there is no need for tears of fear I will continue with my secret… crying in the shower.

  • Club Aspire Lounge at Gatwick North Terminal | Review

    Club Aspire Lounge at Gatwick North Terminal | Review

    Airports are my ‘thing’, I could happily spend hours in them. There’s something about so many people from so many different places coming together and heading off in the same manner that I find fascinating. The big downside of airports is the noise.

    I’ve long been a fan of airport lounges as a travelling hack: they are an oasis of calm in an often hectic terminal. Club Aspire Lounge invited me to try out their newly refurbished lounge at Gatwick North Terminal on our recent holiday.

    Club Aspire Lounge at London Gatwick North Terminal Review

    I was flying to Crete for a week with Boo and my Mum; after check-in and security, we headed to Club Aspire which is located with the other available-to-all lounges (turn left after security and World Duty Free and follow the signs).

    We received a warm welcome at reception and were soon sat enjoying a drink and deciding what to eat. The lounge is like many others offering a light buffet with both hot and cold dishes and a bar stocked with complimentary beer, wine and a small selection of spirits. Sparkling wine and Champagne is available to buy. They don’t have the biggest selection of drinks to other lounges however it is more than ample.

    Boo and my Mum decided to choose from the cold buffet with meats, cheeses, bread and salad. I opted to try one of the two hot dishes available. It was a vegetable curry and was seriously good – so much so that I filled up with a second plate meaning I wasn’t hungry for our four-hour flight to Crete.

    Here’s Boo enjoying a slice of cake as an afternoon treat which you’ll be pleased to know is available in abundance in the lounge…

    Club Aspire Lounge at London Gatwick North Terminal Review

    When looking to book an airport lounge I would recommend checking to see if you have lounge access included with your bank account or credit card. If not there are plenty of offers available online; a quick Google and you’ll find loads and hopefully one matching your departure airport and terminal.

    The Club Aspire Lounge isn’t a first-class experience but it doesn’t claim to be – what it offers is comfortable convenience, which it does really well. When asked about lounges people often ask about value for money in terms of drinks/food available and whilst this is a factor when choosing a lounge especially when travelling with children, I think it’s really important that we step away from viewing lounges as a cost v how much you consume in a set period of time and look at the real value of what is often overlooked… calm. When I book into a lounge I look less at the food and drink available and more at what their maximum capacity is; what you’re paying for is the ability to escape the hustle and bustle of the main terminal and start your trip calm and collected.

    The Club Aspire Lounge at Gatwick North Terminal ticks all of the above and more – a great mid-range lounge offering for both business and leisure and a good choice for families.

    Club Aspire Gatwick North Lounge prices start at £20.99 per adult and £15.99 per child.

    Disclosure: We received complimentary access to the Club Aspire Lounge at Gatwick North Terminal 

  • It’s Never Too Early To Start Teaching Kids About Body Positivity

    It’s Never Too Early To Start Teaching Kids About Body Positivity

    Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes… But if an alien species were to come down and visit us from a distant planet, that’s probably not the impression they’d get of us. At least, not in the Western world. They’d assume that beauty is a very specific size and shape; tall, slender, sunken cheeked and mostly caucasian. We have all grown up surrounded on all sides by images of a perfection that we know to be airbrushed and unattainable… Yet have been pushed to aspire to anyway. This culture has led many of us to endure poor self image, body shame and some of us have even had to endure bullying.

    Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

     

    As parents, we want to ensure that our kids have a more positive experience growing up than we were allowed and part of that is teaching them about body positivity. Whatever size and shape our kids grow up to be, they deserve to be happy, confident and comfortable in their own skin. Here are some ways in which we can help our kids to grow up body positive…

     

    Think about the toys you buy them

    While it’s never too early to start having conversations with our kids about body positivity, our actions often speak louder than our words. Even the toys we buy our kids to play with can inadvertently harm our kids’ body image by warping their standards of beauty. Barbie dolls alone have helped to perpetuate an unrealistic and even unhealthy standard of beauty that has led to body image issues in young girls. Buy toys that demonstrate appropriate and realistic beauty standards like the Our Generation Dolls here. You’d be astonished at the difference it can make.

     

    Call out stereotypes whenever you see them

    Stereotyping is an easy / lazy way to create comedy, but it’s so ubiquitous both in the media that our kids consume and in their own interactions in school and friendship groups, we can forget that we must guard against it. As harmless as it may seem in a cartoon or playground joke it can actually have a detrimental effect on a child’s development. Don’t be afraid to call out stereotypes to your kids whether they come from the screen, the playground or their own mouths.

     

    Challenge their preconceptions

    Our media, especially our children’s media does a lot of coding based on appearance. It assumes that beautiful people are always the good guys while the less attractive or perfectly proportioned are wither the baddies or the slow witted oafs who are there for comic relief. While there are some exceptions (Beauty & The Beast’s Gaston is at least as air headed as Lefou despite his more idyllic appearance) this can also raise our kids to attribute character value to beauty. Don’t be afraid to challenge these preconceptions and find examples to show where more attractive characters can be less than virtuous.

     

    Don’t wait until their teen or pre-teen years to approach the subject of body positivity. By then they’ll likely have started to assemble their own thoughts on the matter. Approach the subject early in their development and they will develop a far more mature and enlightened approach to their own appearance and that of others.

    Disclosure: This is a collaborative post.

  • Why It Pays To Do Your Research When It Comes to TVs

    Why It Pays To Do Your Research When It Comes to TVs

    If you’re a follower of mine on Instagram (if not, click here to follow me) and you watch my IG stories you’ll know that a few months ago my tv broke; not a massive drama… until I realised I needed to venture out into the world of tv shopping to buy one. Buying a TV is one of those tasks that I absolutely hate – it’s the one time when I feel at a disadvantage for being single woman. It’s as if the sales assistants think they know what I want and don’t listen to me.

    Photo by Sven Scheuermeier on Unsplash

    One sales assistant (if you watched my IG stories, you’ll know what store it was) beckoned over a man and  asked if we were together as the thought of a woman looking to buy a tv on her own was obviously far too out there a concept for him to contemplate. Once we’d overcome that monumentally sexist thought I explained what I was looking for in a tv: 43-49 inch, HDR, built in smart app capability – all pretty standard stuff. The assistant then proceeded to show me tvs based on their frame colour… speechless. Needless to say that I didn’t buy a tv from them.

    Determined to come home with a tv that day – there’s only so long you can watch TV on your old 22inch tv/dvd combo saved from your uni days! I decided to not head to the next store straight away but to grab a coffee and do some last minute research. Comparing models online at sites such as Latest Deals is a great way to help you narrow down your search and ensure you get the best price online. After less than ten minutes researching I knew that ultimately I wasn’t going to mount the tv on the wall and a 49inch model was going to be perfect. Browsing online also cemented what I was prepared to pay and gave me a better idea of what was and wasn’t a good deal. The next store I went in I felt focused and gave the sales assistant (who I must add was a million times better than the previous store) a shopping list if you like of all the features I wanted and asked him to show me only those matching all requirements.

    Twenty minutes later I was the proud owner of brand new tv that ticked all the boxes and the only dilemma I faced was how I was going to get it home… oh and could I remember my Netflix password to link up. See it’s easy when you’re prepared…

     

    Disclosure: This is a collaborative post.

  • High-Quality Biocompatible Materials used for Dental  Implants

    High-Quality Biocompatible Materials used for Dental Implants

    Dental implants are an innovative way to replace teeth that have substantial damage with root involvement. This damage may be accident related or caused by poor oral hygiene with tooth decay. One advantage of dental implants is their permanence and durability. When implants are used to replace several teeth, this gives your remaining teeth a more solid foundation with a more natural looking jawline.

     

    The teeth are designed to match your natural teeth, giving you a greatly improved appearance. Other advantages of dental implants include improved speaking quality. Conventional dentures may slip or feel awkward and affect the sound of speech. Likewise, dental implants that fit like real teeth can make eating easier and more pleasant.

     

    Improved oral health is another potential advantage to dental implants. People who had poor dental health, even as a contributing factor in tooth loss, can achieve better results due to more efficient flossing. Getting between the teeth will be easier and allow for the eradication of bacteria at the gumline.

     

    The presence of dental implants arrests bone cell absorption caused by a tooth and its root being extracted. When the empty space remains unfilled, the body starts reabsorbing the unused bone material. This can cause deterioration of the jaw that can change facial appearance.

    WHO IS A GOOD CANDIDATE FOR DENTAL IMPLANTS

     

    Generally, dental implants are a good option for anyone who has lost teeth for any reason. There are, however, certain circumstances that might decrease your chances of success with implants. Be sure to let your dentist know if you have diabetes that is not well controlled, as this can be a contraindication to successful implantation. Smoking can potentially contribute to dental implant failure, as can mouth cancer or radiation to the jaw area.

     

    A commitment to good oral hygiene habits after dental implantation is a must, as bacterial infections in the gums can lead to failure of the implant. It should be understood that starting or resuming smoking will also increase the likelihood of complications or failure of the implants to merge with the bony structures, and may lead to repeat procedures or expensive treatments for correction.

     

    Bruxism (teeth grinding) is another condition that can jeopardize the long-term success of dental implants. A person who grinds his/her teeth in their sleep can loosen or bend an abutment or cause breakage that will require professional correction. If you have bruxism and dental implants, you will need to wear a corrective device during sleep to immobilize the jaw and prevent damage.

     

    WHAT ARE BIOCOMPATIBLE MATERIALS FOR DENTAL IMPLANTS

     

    Titanium Dental Implants

    All implanted tooth replacements consist of three parts. There is the screw, which is the part that is inserted into the bony jaw structure, the abutment which attaches to the screw above the gum line, and the crown, which is the actual tooth replacement. For decades, all implants were made of a metal called titanium, and were successful in about 95 percent of patients who received them.

     

    Titanium implants were initially made of pure titanium but began to be often mixed with small amounts of other metals, including gold and nickel. In a study of 1500 dental implant patients, a small percentage did display symptoms of allergic reactions to titanium. A research paper compiled in 2010 documented that the incidence of allergies to titanium implants was higher in patients who had allergies to other metals. Nickel is believed to be a common source of allergic reactions to dental implants.

     

    When considering titanium dental implants, it is crucial that you have allergy testing done to identify potential reactivity and avoid implant failure. It is important to understand that as metals begin to corrode, they dispense minuscule particles that turn into ions. These ions attach themselves to proteins in all parts of the body and cause symptoms such as skin rashes, pain deep in the muscles, or pervasive fatigue.

     

    The above symptoms suggest that the body’s immune system is under attack, and often the body will respond to this foreign object as it would to a virus, by attacking and trying to destroy it. The attack can trigger a ripple effect that will lead to an autoimmune disease such as lupus, chronic fatigue syndrome, psoriasis or scleroderma, Guillain-Barre syndrome, type 1 diabetes or Hashimoto’s thyroiditis.

     

    Ceramic Dental Implants

    We are fortunate to have an alternative to metal implants which offers multiple advantages. Although titanium implants have been biocompatible for a majority of users, ceramic implants are inert and present virtually no risk of allergic reaction. Ceramic materials such as zirconium are super strong and nearly unbreakable. Knee and hip joint replacements have used ceramic prosthetics for decades, and the substance even stands up to NASA engineering standards.

     

    Ceramic implants eliminate the risk of corrosion or galvanizing effect that is not uncommon with metal implants. There will not be a problem with metallic aftertaste or an unsightly gray line developing on the gum line. With metal implants, there may be interference with electronic devices such as computers, but this problem does not exist when ceramic materials are used.

     

    Perhaps the greatest benefit to ceramic implants is that they are so completely biocompatible that gum tissue will grow up to and around the abutment, thus eliminating the development of receding gums, which is often a problem with metal implants. In about four to six months following the ceramic implant procedure, the bone will most likely have grown up to the implant surface, allowing the implant to be fastened in place by bone tissue.

    Photo by Peter Kasprzyk on Unsplash 

    All these amazing benefits make ceramic (zirconium) implants the best, strongest and most durable choice for natural tooth replacement.

     

    ABOUT THE DOCTOR

     

    If you are interested in a free consultation for dental implants, contact Dr. Marissa Crandall Cruztoday at the website: www.kopperio.com. Dr. Cruz is a member of the American Dental Association and a Diplomate of the International Congress of Oral Implantologists. She offers specialized care in periodontal therapy and plastic surgery. Periodontal and bone regeneration therapy are also her areas of expertise at the King of Prussia Periodontics & Dental Implants.